This article will open up 6 new possibilities for you to know what to say. The solution to this is to do small talk. After that, you talk about other things each of you do in your lives.
You start with work, then working out, and any other leisure activities. The key here is to lower your expectations.
You go over a series of topics, one by one, jumping from subject to subject. As you talk to friends, old or new, you sometimes worry that the topic will run its course soon. You get anxious about not being able to keep the conversation flowing beyond a couple of minutes. This happens usually when you are having a logical exchange of information. A quick solution here is to get in touch with your emotions, instead of your logic.
You make yourself feel great, first. You smile, you feel the rhythm of the music, and then you can talk. This unlocks your emotional brain.
You won’t get to see your friends as much
The part of your brain that can connect with others. Even the silliest things are okay because the priority is not to exchange information, but rather connect and build friendships.
You get into that state by the way you think, and the way that makes you feel. You should strive not to get into that state in the first place. The way you can prevent getting there is not to second-guess, criticize, or constantly wonder what others are thinking of you. It brings you down emotionally and makes you lose your ability to mingle.
What you can do, is whenever those self-doubts and anxiety come up, do something to interrupt them. Move around physically, do something or go somewhere and come back. Instead, interrupt it and distract yourself from it. This is like procrastinating on feeling anxious. Just focus on reducing the self-doubt every time.
One way to start is to notice how every topic is related to many other topics. Take one of your favorite topics. Notice how you can divide it into a set of subtopics. They are like sub. Notice how you can take each one, and divide again it into mini .
2. when you don’t know what to say to keep the conversation going
You probably know exactly what to say and what to talk about when it comes to all those subtopics. Every subject has many parts and facets to it that are related to other subjects. Think of one topic, then how it relates to another, then how that relates to the next one.
Keep practicing until you feel like you can start with any topic and come up with other related things to talk about. After a little practice at home, try and use that skill in conversation. Try going from one topic to the next as you socialize with people.
1. when you don’t know what to say to someone you just met
The amazing thing about this is that you only have to learn it once. There are things you can say to turn a somewhat dull conversation into an interesting one. There are topics you can get into and conversational turns that you can use. To make the conversation instantly more interesting, you can go into more personal topics.
Another way to make things interesting is to share a vulnerabilitya quirk, or anything about you that is a tiny bit embarrassing. This is something you do half-jokingly, and it shows that you have confidence. It also makes you relatable, because everyone else has little quirks too.
Your expectations become more flexible
Another quick tip to bring the conversation to an interesting turn is to use the time perspective. For any topic or activity, the way we used to do it is way different from now, and will probably be very different in the future. Whenever you think about what to say next, consider the future and the past of the topic you were talking about.
It might be just what you need to revive the conversation. At some point, you want to transition to deeper and more meaningful conversations.
To do that, you discuss a topic more in detail. You spend more time on it instead of moving on quickly to another one. Once you find those very special topics, you can discuss them for several minutes and with passion. When this happens, you know exactly what to say.
Once the other person starts to share more and get deeper into that the conversation is much more enjoyable and meaningful. For your friendship, this becomes something you can relate on. With some practice, you can always know what to say. The key is to never let yourself get stuck in an emotional state of self-doubt.
Try and shake it off and do whatever you can to feel good. Your feelings influence how you socialize a great deal. This is what makes both of you wonder what you could talk about.